I was asking someone the other day why they didn't say anything to me when they noticed I was getting fatter and fatter. They said it would have been rude or impolite to point something like that out.
So what do we do when we notice someone we love or care about is getting fatter? Or on the other side of the coin, getting too thin? I think sometimes even when we are thin we still think we are fat because we have thought of ourselves that way for so long that it is ingrained.
Do we tell people they are getting fat? I know my dad used to tell us (my mom, sister and I) that we were getting fat. God bless him, at least he was honest.
This is a hard thing because who is going to tell you that you are fat (besides ourselves which we have already established)? Who is going to be honest enough with you to tell you to lose weight. Maybe your doctor will tell you to lose weight, but I can't even remember the last time the doctor told me to do that (of course, I hardly ever go to the doctor anyway).
I asked my roommate to remind me of my fatness when I am getting up to get a second helping of something, but she said she doesn't want to hurt my feelings, so even she won't do it.
Apparently, it is up to us. Unfortunately, we are not always the best judges of our own "fatness" or "thinness".
I can judge others fatness or thinness though. The other day I saw someone so thin that I thought they just had to be sick. They looked so thin and frail that I don't know how they could support what little weight they had. And I can almost guarantee you that they think they are fat!
There is something wrong with reality in America—we have about 75% of us overweight or obese and the rest of us sickly thin. If only we could accept ourselves with our imperfections and then get a good handle on what is real and what isn't and then go from there.
It's a struggle, an uphill climb, but conquering the unrealities is the first step.
Have a great weekend! It could snow. Build a snowman quickly if it does!
Karin
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